People can tend to have a love/hate relationship with their families, bosses, friends, and even spouses. They can be the sweetest people with loving intentions one second, and the next, say something so offensive that makes you want to call them every name under the sun and react negatively.
Questions like “When did you gain so much weight?” or “When will you ever get another boyfriend?” or “Why haven’t you found a job yet?” can really hit below the belt and really set off your temper, if you allow it. People don’t often think about what they say before they say it, which can lead to disaster if the person they are speaking to (you) becomes offended.
You have a right to defend yourself and speak your mind, but you can come up with a retort that allows you to express yourself while still being positive and polite.
Finding the right comeback to deal with rude people isn’t always easy, especially if that person signs your paychecks. If you have been wondering how to handle your mother-in-law who can’t seem to keep her mouth shut about your weight, or your boss who shows no remorse when he gives you extra work to do, consider these comebacks the next time you encounter rudeness.
In case you don’t know how to deal with these people, use the following comebacks whenever you encounter rudeness:
A rude person will likely feel ridiculous and embarrassed if you don’t even respond and simply choose to laugh instead!
Once again, you’re offering proof that your outlook and mood won’t be destroyed by this person’s cruelty or thoughtlessness, and you can also diffuse some of the tension in the situation.
– “I love myself and I love you, too”
This phrase might just apply in some situations with your spouse, friends, and family. Therefore, you should use it at your discretion. You should express to them how much you love them and life, because once they hear it, their comments will lose power and become irrelevant fast. Also, they may be too surprised to create a right response.
These words can result in more positive conversation and boost the energy of a room.
– “You always say something negative ”
This takes the attention off of you and back onto them, making them think twice about their choice of conversation topics. Not only will you, rightfully so, draw their focus onto their own words, but also force them to reconsider what they say in the future.
Speaking your mind when a person repeats behavior that offends you is never wrong or uncalled for; if you feel you need to draw attention to someone’s behavior, then listen to your gut. The person’s negativity likely affects other people besides you, so making them aware of their own toxic behavior will actually benefit you and others in future situations with this person.
– “You are right”
An arrogant person is more likely to single out a group of people by race, sexual orientation, education, etc. and talk about negative stereotypes. The reason for this is that by putting others down, the arrogant person is attempting to elevate himself by comparison.
You can quickly put a stop to the negative talk by implying that someone close to you is a member of the group that the arrogant person is belittling. This shocks them into the realization that their negative talk is not going to be tolerated, but is insulting to you personally as well. A quick apology and exit by the rude person is likely to follow.
– “You almost hurt my feelings”
This is slightly on a sarcastic side and does the job too. It sends out the idea that you will not absorb the negativity thrown your way. Once the person knows that you aren’t taking any BS, they will mostly step back.
– “You are stupid!”
– “That almost hurt my feelings.”
– “Do you think that was necessary? Do you think that I want to answer?”
Especially in group settings, this will likely put the other person in check very quickly. Instead of getting the expected irate response out of you, they will meet a calm, cool and collected you, ready to talk things over sensibly and decently. Also, it will give them a chance to redeem themselves, and apologize to you in front of your friends, family or co-workers.
Other people do need to know that you do not tolerate rude or uncalled for questions and comments, and that you will call attention to their uncouth behavior. If they say “yes” to the second part of your question, you can simply reply with “Well, it looks like this isn’t your lucky day,” and be done with the conversation.
– “The conversation is over ”
In case you are too angry to respond to them in an adult way, you should end the conversation. In addition, you shouldn’t let the conversation carry on in order to keep your dignity.
– “I do appreciate your perspective“
You and everyone else is entitled to their opinion, but the arrogant person needs to realize that their negative opinion of others does not hold true for other people.
– “Thank you“
Normally, saying “thank you” indicates you appreciate someone’s thoughtfulness or kindness. As a reply to a rude remark, however, “thank you” shows your maturity while also clearly implying that you are choosing not to let the other person’s impoliteness affect you.
This has the power to shut someone down pretty quickly, and is an empowering way to take the path of calmness and positivity.
So, moral of the story is simply to never confront rudeness with rudeness. “An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind” We all know this. We just need to follow it. So, take that chill pill and act the dignified way.